Hello Readers,
I’m Priya; your fellow traveller in this journey called ‘LIFE’.
Har insan apni life me kabhi na kabhi
akelepan ko experience karta hi hai and kisi ke mann me iss akelepan ki feeling
ka aana natural hai. But sahi time par sahi tareeke se isse na samjha jaye; toh
ye depression bhi create kar sakta hai. So aaj iss post me akelepan ko acche se samajhne ke or
khush rehne ke kuch easy methods share karungi.
What is loneliness:- Akelepan ka matlab akele rehna nahi; balki hazaro ki bheed me bhi khud ko akela feel karna hai. Akelepan me insan khud ko unwanted, empty or unimportant feel karne lagta hai. Ese insan dusre logo ke sath relations banane me bahut uncomfortable feel karte hai. Sath hi unki apni insecurity levels bhi kafi increase ho jate hain; Jo unhe socialize hone se rokti Hain.
Alone in the crowd |
Difference b/w Loneliness & Being Alone:-
Akelapan or akela hona
dono states ek dum different hain. Akele hone me insan ki apni iccha ya koi
reason hota hai. Yeh ek positive experience ho sakta hai. Isme insan apni marji
se kuch time ke liye logo se dur ekant me
rehta hai.
Vahin dusri taraf akelepan ko feel karne
ke liye insan ko akele hone ki need nahi hoti. Isse vo crowded places me bhi
feel kar sakta hai. Isme insan ko apni identity ke khatam hone ki feeling aane lagti hai. Physically ho na ho; par emotionally vo dusre logo se separated bhi ho jata hai.
Causes of loneliness:-
Hum sabme ek bahut gandi
aadat hoti hai jo hum humesha se follow karte aaye hain vo hai – to ask. Humare sath
koi bhi problem ho; koi bhi kami ho; hum humesha uska solution bahar ki duniya ya
dusre logo me search karte hai. Apne har sukh dukh ka karan hum bahar ke logo
ko bana lete hai. Koi humare sath hai toh hum khush hain; vo nahi hai to hum
akele hai, dukhi hai. Agar hume koi dukh hai; toh vo bhi share karne ke liye humare
sath koi hona hi chaiye.
to ask for support everytime |
Basically hum apne hi emotions ko feel karne ke liye
humesha dusro ka sahara lete hai. Hume har waqt koi na koi apne sath chaiye hi
hota hai. Shayad hum kabhi akele hona hi nahi chahte. Or kahin na kahin ye
akele hone ka dar hi akelepan ka main rootcause hai. Because bahar ke ye
temporary helps apko kabhi bhi permanent peace or satisfaction nahi de sakti. Balki
shayad unke upar bani hui apki ye dependency apko or bhi weak bana deti hai.
Effects of Loneliness:-
Vese toh akela feel
karna ek healthy emotion hai or reality me kuch fix time ke liye akele rehna
beneficial bhi ho sakta hai. Because esi situation me aap duniya se alag khud
ke liye kuch time de rahe hote ho. And khud ko samajhne ke liye akele me self-thinking
karna sahi bhi hai. Isse apko apni inner powers & potential ko janne me help hoti hai.
But akelepan ka long
time tak ek deep level par experience harmful ho sakta hai. Because isse insan
ke mann me insecurities, disappointment, rejection, frustration, stress, anger
jesi negative feelings grow hone lagti hai; Jo insan ko mentally weak bana deti
hai.
Ye situation
affected person ko healthy relations banana se & lifestyle ko improve karne se rokti
hai. Ese me insan logo se contact rakhne se dur bhagta hai. Iss vajah se vo
apna confidence bhi khone lagta hai. Sath hi uske mann me ese bahut se thoughts
bhi aane lagte hai ki; shayad usme hi koi kami hai, ya fir vo hi kisi ke pyar ke
layak nahi hai etc.
Iss overthinking se uss
person ke liye ye situation or bhi jyada painful & unbearable ho jati hai. Ye akelapan
or bhi serious hone par stress, depression, insomnia, heart disease, cancer,
anxiety jesi bimariyo ka reason bhi ban sakta hai.
Overcoming of Loneliness:-
- Sabse pehle toh apko ye samajhna hoga ki akelapan ek mental state hai; jo direct humare thoughts se regulate hoti hai. Aap jitna jaldi apni thinking ko positive karenge, utni jaldi aap akelepan se bahar aa payenge. 2nd, apko apni life ki emptiness ko bharne ki jarurat nahi hai. Yeh apne aap me hi complete hai. Yahi humara nature hai. Isse bhagna ya struggle nahi karna hai, balki isse samajhna hai or iske sath jeena hai.
- Because kabhi-kabhi aap iss khalipan ko bharne ke liye har kuch karne ko ready hote ho. or iss har kuch karne ke order me kabhi-kabhi aap galat activities me indulge ho jate ho. jisse ye apka khalipan ya akelapan dur karne ki jagah apke liye or problems create kar deta hai. So iss loneliness ke liye apka aware hona bahut jaruri hai jisse aap jane-anjane me apne liye koi or difficulties na paida kar le.
- 3rd , apko to ask wali habit ko stop asking me change karna hoga. Iske liye apko financially independent hone ke sath-sath; khud ko mentally or emotionally bhi independent banane ki jarurat hai. E.g.:- aap ek baat sochiye, kya aap khud ke liye poore nahi ho, apko kyu humesha khud ke hi emotions feel karne ke liye dusro ki jarurat hoti hai, kyu hum apni khushi or dukh ka reason kisi or insan ko bana lete hai?
- Agar koi humesha ke liye aapke sath hone wala hai to vo aap khud ho. Apko ye baat accept karni chaiye ki; aap khud ke liye ek dum perfect ho. apko bahar khushiyaan dhudne ki jarurat nahi hai, balki aap khud khushiyon ka ek resource ho. apko khush hone ke liye kisi ke hone, na hone ki jarurat nahi hai. Aap khud apne liye ek complete package ho jo apne saare emotions khud feel kar sakta hai & apne kiye hue har kaam ki responsibility bhi le sakta hai.
- Isse aap logo ke upar bani hui apni emotional dependency ko khatam kar paoge. Or jab aap emotionally & financially independent ho jaoge; toh apka ye akelepan ka dar bhi khatam ho jayega. Jisse aap logo ke sath or unke bina bhi dono hi situations me khush reh paoge or kabhi bhi khud ko akela feel nahi karoge. Sath hi apne aas-pas ke logo ko bhi khush rakh paoge.
In sabhi baato ke alawa kuch
esi choti-choti activities hain; jinhe apne routine me laane se aap akelepan se
dur reh payenge:-
- Love yourself.
- Do what you like to do.
- Associate yourself with social works.
- Connect with nature.
- Laughter & music is the remedy of loneliness.
- Spend a good time with your family
members.
- Make pets your companion.
- Be in touch with the help of social media.
- Keep yourself away from narcotics.
- Find out the reason of your loneliness.
In short, akelapan
feel karna normal hai. But sahi time par isse bahar nikalne ka tareeka na samaj
aane par ye feeling hume depression me le jati hai. Ye situation kisi bhi age
ka person face kar sakta hai. Isse recover hone ke liye awareness or positive
thinking ki jarurat hoti hai.
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for Reading.
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